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Title: relationships
Post by: hencarrai on Sunday 31 December 23 09:28 GMT (UK)
Hi, Happy New Year to all.
My wife has a brother John( my brother in law?).
John has a daughter Gillian (my niece?)
If my wife and I divorce, is Gillian still my niece?
Thanks
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: oldfashionedgirl on Sunday 31 December 23 10:04 GMT (UK)
On the same vane I have a family member who was in a similar situation to the then Prince Charles.
Was he a widower or a divorcee when before he marries Camilla ?
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: Iain... on Sunday 31 December 23 10:17 GMT (UK)
I have absolutely no legal qualifications except that I’ve been there twice…. 
As your ex is no longer your wife, then your former family relationships also ‘disappear out the window.’   ;)
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: oldfashionedgirl on Sunday 31 December 23 10:26 GMT (UK)
Thanks Iain, makes sense
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: Palladium on Sunday 31 December 23 10:28 GMT (UK)
I had 'in-laws' that became 'out-laws' for a while... ;D
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: MollyC on Sunday 31 December 23 11:29 GMT (UK)
Just discovered someone who married her stepmother's cousin.  Did her stepmother become her cousin-in-law?!
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: ptdrifter on Sunday 31 December 23 14:17 GMT (UK)
I think Charles was a divorcee as he was not married when Diana died.
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: Andrew Tarr on Sunday 31 December 23 23:10 GMT (UK)
As your ex is no longer your wife, then your former family relationships also ‘disappear out the window.’   ;)
Some may do, but your children are still yours, are they not ? (if there are any, of course).
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: Ruskie on Sunday 31 December 23 23:24 GMT (UK)
As you would refer to your wife as your ex wife after you divorce, wouldn’t it follow that John would be your ex brother in law, and Gillian your ex niece?  :)

Title: Re: relationships
Post by: Cell on Monday 01 January 24 02:37 GMT (UK)
 I think it depends on your  family dynamics .

My uncle was still my uncle, (and I niece to him),  and I still refer to him this way ( he died  a couple of years ago) even though he and his wife divorced ( my bio Aunt, my parent's  sibling). He will always be my uncle,and not an ex uncle.

My parents referred to him as their brother in law  too even after my aunt split up with him. They kept in close touch as he was a  loved part of our family. They were married for years and years  , but sadly  broke  up after about 30 odd years  of marriage .
 I think of him as  very much my uncle, and not an ex uncle. He is my uncle, and father  of my 1st  cousins ,Why wouldn't he  still be my uncle?

 My grandmother ( and grandfather)  loved him and treated him like a son, and this didn't  change when her daughter split up from him. He was still her son in law, none of  my family including myself thought of him as an ex uncle, son in law, brother in-law.
 It all depends on your own family dynamics , but  my uncle will always be  my uncle, and not an ex uncle.
It really  depends on everyone's own circumstances.

 Kind regards :)

Title: Re: relationships
Post by: MollyC on Monday 01 January 24 10:40 GMT (UK)
Family dynamics:  My uncle was divorced from his wife when I was about 8, no children.  She was a primary school teacher who had played with me delightfully, suggested reading and arithmetic books, so had influence on my education.

When I was about 26 I encountered her in the course of my work.  I think she knew where I was working, I had her name and address in front of me, she said very diffidently "Do you know who I am?".

"Of course I do Aunty M."
Invitation to tea, friendship revived.  Sadly she died of a stroke about eight years later.
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: Biggles50 on Monday 01 January 24 11:03 GMT (UK)
Depends upon how the Niece feels about the relationship.

My Wife’s Ex is still referred to by his Nephew and Nieces (by Marriage) as Uncle.



Title: Re: relationships
Post by: dobfarm on Monday 01 January 24 11:08 GMT (UK)
Hi, Happy New Year to all.
My wife has a brother John( my brother in law?).
John has a daughter Gillian (my niece?)
If my wife and I divorce, is Gillian still my niece?
Thanks

I would say its down to how you got/get on with your ex - niece in law - on a one to one niece/uncle in law base and John's family as a person  (not just you as John's sisters ex husband)
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: hencarrai on Monday 01 January 24 11:34 GMT (UK)
ok, thanks everyone for your input. All sensible comments.
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: Kiltpin on Monday 01 January 24 12:06 GMT (UK)
On the same vein, I have a family member who was in a similar situation to the then Prince Charles.
Was he a widower or a divorcee when before he marries Camilla ?
Prince Charles was a divorcee, as Diana was still alive at the time of the divorce. If she had been dead, there would have been no reason for a divorce. 
The ex-partner's state of health has no bearing on the remaining partner. 

Regards 

Chas
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: dobfarm on Monday 01 January 24 16:37 GMT (UK)
I had an uncle John (Dads brother in Yorkshire) his wife, my in law aunt Emily who was sister in law to my mother, ( so Emily and mum were wives of two brothers) My mother came to Yorkshire as a maid about 17 years old 1925 from a mining village in Derbyshire, so had no family here in Yorkshire and my aunt Emily came from another part of Yorkshire as a maid also with no relatives here.. Over the years Emily and mum became like true sisters, mum used to visit Emily's family and Emily visited Mums family in Derbyshire who became friends with mums brothers and sisters and visa-versa mum got friendly with Emily's brothers and sisters or both accepted as another sibling to each others families.

Therefore it about people how they get on with each other -not always family connections..
Title: Re: relationships
Post by: Iain... on Tuesday 02 January 24 09:44 GMT (UK)
As your ex is no longer your wife, then your former family relationships also ‘disappear out the window.’   ;)
Some may do, but your children are still yours, are they not ? (if there are any, of course).

Lol..., exception to the 'rule.'  Interesting.   ;)