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Title: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: jettejjane on Saturday 19 March 16 17:01 GMT (UK)
I am over the moon.  I re-homed my first Carte de Visite!  I also got a lovely mail back when it was received.  The lady in question was so grateful and it gave me a warm glow inside. I was also able to give her a bit more info because of research I had done.

My faith in humanity is restored.  I am on a mission to try and re-home more!  However means a lot of research but it will be fun.

Those 2 little words "Thank You" made it all worthwhile. Helen,  if by any chance you are  a Rootschatter and see this hope you not blushing.

Jane ;D
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: nanny jan on Saturday 19 March 16 17:35 GMT (UK)
Well done Jane!   :).
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: jettejjane on Saturday 19 March 16 17:45 GMT (UK)
Well done Jane!   :).

Thanks to you too!!!  Just had to share with you all because there have been so many discussions on the subject of people saying or not saying  those 2 magic words.  myself have been stung by rellies contacting me and me  giving too much, the giving nothing and  then being dropped like a hot brick without a simple Thanks Jane :'(

Jane ;)
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: kiwihalfpint on Saturday 19 March 16 19:27 GMT (UK)
Well done Jane!


have been stung by rellies contacting me and me  giving too much, the giving nothing and  then being dropped like a hot brick without a simple Thanks Jane :'(

Jane ;)

I think a lot of us can relate to that in our journey of genealogy.   It is better just to give the bones of the skeleton at first. ;D


Cheers
KHP
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: jettejjane on Saturday 19 March 16 19:54 GMT (UK)
Well done Jane!


have been stung by rellies contacting me and me  giving too much, the giving nothing and  then being dropped like a hot brick without a simple Thanks Jane :'(

Jane ;)

I think a lot of us can relate to that in our journey of genealogy.   It is better just to give the bones of the skeleton at first. ;D


Cheers
KHP

Yep kiwi spot on! I give too much. I have found 6 really close rellies, even met 3. I gave far too much, ain't hindsight a wonderful thing. I have tried to keep in touch but to no avail. They got what they wanted, I got nothing. Just a lot of anger. I feel I was used and sadly it was down to me. I would not have behaved the same way. All I think now is I am the  better person, I don't need them, doing ok without them. This is sad, if I find any more rellies I really don't think I will be bothered. Before everyone gets up in arms, I know you may not agree, but it is how I feel. Wrong or right, my choice

If they are on here and reading this hope it makes them think, guys you used me!!!

Jane.
 
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: groom on Saturday 19 March 16 20:11 GMT (UK)
I think a lot of us can relate to that in our journey of genealogy.   It is better just to give the bones of the skeleton at first. ;D

I agree KHP,  take it slowly until you are sure that they are as keen as you are, better not to overwhelm them with information.
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: jettejjane on Saturday 19 March 16 20:23 GMT (UK)
I think a lot of us can relate to that in our journey of genealogy.   It is better just to give the bones of the skeleton at first. ;D

I agree KHP,  take it slowly until you are sure that they are as keen as you are, better not to overwhelm them with information.

Jan, you know me, verbal diahorrea!!!  Especially where my Redman s are cobcerned. Always say too much, can't shut me up!!! But yes I agree, perhaps I do overwhelm them.

Is it too late to teach this "old dog" New tricks, lol!
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: kiwihalfpint on Saturday 19 March 16 20:46 GMT (UK)
Jane,

There have been threads on this before from memory about people just taking the information and giving nothing back.   

To me these are people that don't want to do the hard yards, just have all the information fall into their hands.   

Cheers
KHP
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: jettejjane on Saturday 19 March 16 21:24 GMT (UK)
Jane,

There have been threads on this before from memory about people just taking the information and giving nothing back.   

To me these are people that don't want to do the hard yards, just have all the information fall into their hands.   

Cheers
KHP

Yep. Remember threads well! Such a shame this happens. But.sad for others that are genuine. I am afraid I am not interested any more. The family I have cause enough grief, why add to it, lol!
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: Jomot on Saturday 19 March 16 21:51 GMT (UK)
So pleased for you on both counts Jane - first finding the correct 'home' for the card and secondly for receiving those magic words in return, and from someone who sounds as though they really meant it too.   Good for you !

Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: Edmund f j s on Saturday 19 March 16 22:10 GMT (UK)
Don't worry about it Jane ,in my job I know I've cracked it when I get a cup of tea that's as good as a thank you........
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: jettejjane on Saturday 19 March 16 22:13 GMT (UK)
So pleased for you on both counts Jane - first finding the correct 'home' for the card and secondly for receiving those magic words in return, and from someone who sounds as though they really meant it too.   Good for you !



Indeed it was a  great result, we exchanged several e mails before I sent card, and she sounded like a lovely lady, which she was.

I send those magic words to you too for your reply!!

Jane x
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: jaybelnz on Saturday 19 March 16 22:59 GMT (UK)
Good on you Jane!  It's always very satisfying and comforting to know you've made someone happy, and if they express it directly - well, that makes it all the better!
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: jbml on Sunday 20 March 16 00:19 GMT (UK)
Well done Jane. I know how much this means to you, and I am pleased for you  :)
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: Viktoria on Sunday 20 March 16 00:52 GMT (UK)
  It is infuriating  and frustrating when people can`t say a simple "thank you".

I then tell myself I`ve done it for my dead rellies, who will be known to  more people than before .
" Lump of grass " them! My rellies will be remembered, even by such miserable beings and that for me is what it is about, a bit of immortality  for people who led simple unremarkable lives and struggled through conditions and illnesses we never dream of.
I am old enough to remember elderly people recounting their childhood when it was common for
women to wait outside pubs for at least some of their husband`s wages before they  drank it all away, as many men were paid in a pub. Kids barefoot and hungry to school. Mums only able to buy a cup of sugar , couldn`t afford a bag. Bread and jam was that--no butter .
Waiting to buy the scraps off the butcher`s floor, full of sawdust. Now that is poverty but people  today think they are poor and many do struggle but by comparison they don`t know they are born.
I`m not wishing anyone should be so deprived but what I am saying those ancestors who struggled through deserve to be remembered by as many as possible----even ungrateful miserable users.
Viktoria.
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: 3sillydogs on Sunday 20 March 16 07:43 GMT (UK)

Well done Jane, there is a special elation that comes from helping someone who appreciates your efforts.

Viktoria: So true,  I couldn't have said it better :D
Title: Re: I have finally helped someone!!
Post by: jettejjane on Sunday 20 March 16 09:23 GMT (UK)
I thank everyone here for sharing in my pleasure and understanding what it means to me. That a complete stranger is more appreciative than actual relatives who seeked me out says it all.

Jane  ;D