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Title: What do I do?
Post by: TerriLea on Saturday 10 March 12 01:32 GMT (UK)
Hi All,

I don't know if this goes here or not... Sorry if it doesn't!!

I know family history can be frustrating when you get stuck at a brick wall, but what do you do when you come across pages of family history that is wrongly connected? I have certificates to verify things before even adding it to my own computer program for family history, how come so many people think if they find someone born in the same year, with the same name, that they think it's the right person? I've recently come across lots of my family history with wrong information, or connections. A friend was showing me how ancestry works, and all the benefits of it, and we looked at my family history, but there is a lot on Public Members Trees, that is wrong! SO do I now have to join Ancestry to let these people know that what they are putting up is wrong? A lot of it doesn't have any "citations" either, so it seems like because they can't find the real connection, they'll put in whatever they come across!
Just very, very frustrating!

There we go, I've had my vent, feel a little better, but still....what do I do?

Thanks for your help.
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: Alexander. on Saturday 10 March 12 01:57 GMT (UK)
Hi TerriLea,

Welcome to RootsChat! :)

I think there is very little you should or can do - to contact and correct all the incorrect trees would be a thankless task that would probably not be very successful.

We have to consider why other people do their family history. Bizarre as it may seem to us, not everyone is researching their ancestors to find "the truth". People have varying degrees of interest - some try to "do" their family in an afternoon, while others spend countless hours in archives going through original documents. Some people may only be researching their tree to find their connection to royalty or illustrious individuals, and the finer details of how they are related my be insignificant (even if outright wrong).

To quote a message I got from one distant relative when I told her a branch of her tree was incorrect, she said:
"I can't find any other baptism for that name, so in the absence of anything else I'll leave it as it is for now. I have to admit that once you get that far back, I'm not that picky!! (it's not like a picture's going to turn up you can point to and say "that's my nose!!")"

Needless to say, I haven't been in touch with her much after that.

Alexander
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: TerriLea on Saturday 10 March 12 02:04 GMT (UK)
Thanks Alexander,

I guess I hadn't looked at it that way...Silly me, thinking everyone wants to do it right!  :D

I guess I think it's frustrating because I make sure I get it right and spend money on certificates and try to do the right thing by others as well by making sure I have my family history connected properly. I have just received 5 certificates back, and 4 of them are right, but the 5th is something I just put down to "oh well, keep looking for the right ancestor!" But I guess some people don't really want to spend money to get the right family connection.

Terri.
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: Deb D on Saturday 10 March 12 02:05 GMT (UK)
I firmly believe that the first and most enforceable rule of genealogy should be

"Thou SHALT do thine HOMEWORK ... and if thou art not prepared to do so, stop now!"

Sadly, it isn't yet legislated ....  ;)
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: Alexander. on Saturday 10 March 12 02:07 GMT (UK)
Well, you have my vote Deb  ;)  :D
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: Deb D on Saturday 10 March 12 04:37 GMT (UK)
 ;D
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: TerriLea on Saturday 10 March 12 04:55 GMT (UK)
Yes Deb, I agree with you!

Would be great if all the family History sites wouldn't "join" family trees or upload info unless there is a citation connected to the info on it! Then just have a different spot to put "possibilities".  :)
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: CarolA3 on Saturday 10 March 12 13:42 GMT (UK)
Hi Terri  :)

A slightly odd woman ran up to me in the street a while ago shouting 'Claire! Claire! I haven't seen you for ages!'.  She would not accept that I wasn't Claire and insisted on telling me all about her personal life - very loudly, in public.

An apparently sane (and sober!) young woman in our local pub told me that she'd been talking to my daughter, who looks and sounds just like me, and I had to be so proud of her progress at college.  Guess what, I've never had a daughter.

In both cases I tried to set them straight, but they weren't having a bar of it.  There's nothing you can do about people whose minds are made up, even when you know you're right.  Just don't waste time and energy on them, and above all never waste a single penny/cent on trying to prove them wrong.

All the best,
Carol
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: rancegal on Saturday 10 March 12 16:12 GMT (UK)


   Ah, but do you wonder about the mysterious family living in a parallel universe, Carol?   :D
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: panda40 on Saturday 10 March 12 16:27 GMT (UK)
Just remember what is written on the certificate is what the person was told to write down at the time no one verified the information.
I have a marriage cert with the brides surname spelt Paine and Payne written by the same person so which spelling is the correct one???
My great grandmother told porkies about her age and said she was 21 when she married. took me years to find her birth and had to work back from her death to do it only to find she was 17 at the time. so although certs are wonderful try and get a second source as well.
As you rightly say if only everyone checked their information. I'm as guilty as everyone else only today I found a wrong entry on my private tree but at least I went back in and made the correction.
Panda
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: LizzieW on Saturday 10 March 12 17:18 GMT (UK)
TerriLea

Welcome to Rootschat.  There have been lots of topics on here about Ancestry public trees, and they all complain that there is a tree, or more, resembling their own tree but with wrong info.  There is not a lot you can do, if you try to write to the person with the "wrong" tree, either you'll not get a reply, or you'll get a reply telling you they are right and you are not.

The best thing is just to grin and bear it and know that you have the correct info, researched and with certificates etc. to prove it.

Lizzie
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: CarolA3 on Saturday 10 March 12 19:12 GMT (UK)
Ah, but do you wonder about the mysterious family living in a parallel universe, Carol?   :D

Aha - that explains where my ggrandparents were in 1901  :o - not hiding in Jericho after all!

Thanks for that, I'll just jump in me Tardis and sign up for FindMyPast Multidimensional without further ado  8)

(Sorry, gone a bit off-topic.  Ignore me.)

Carol
Title: Re: What do I do?
Post by: TerriLea on Saturday 10 March 12 23:18 GMT (UK)


Thanks for the reply everyone. Sometimes you just wish you could get some people and give them a good shake and tell them to check their sources before posting/publishing anything!  :)