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I have been swapping information for some time via email with the wife of my husband's cousin x times removed. (they have the same 4 x great grandfather).
I am going to meet her tomorrow for the first time - in the cemetery where the last 3 generations are buried.
Is this weird? I think it is totally normal! But my non genealogy friends are laughing at me, so I thought I would ask others where they have met newly found relations.
Have fun with this, ;) Ted
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I met up with my band of fifth cousins at the Mitchell Library, in Sydney - it was the most convenient place for all of us, and allowed us to do some "homework" at the same time. Sadly, we didn't have nearly enough time, and keep saying we must get back together soon!
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hi,,not wierd at all..i met my second cousin at the church and cemetery where our gt gt grandfather was buried,,,where else would genealogists meet ;D ;D ;D
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Another cousin is also joining us there too! Its going to be a great day ;D
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A slightly different take on this subject :) I met, through GR, a lady who was born and lives in South Africa but was researching a member of my family tree, who had gone out to South Africa in the early 1800s.
During her last visit to England, in 2009, we met up and visited Yorkshire where we found, to our amazement, that our great grandparents are buried in the same cemetery in Huddersfield and are almost within "spitting" distance of each other. ::)
BumbleB
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In a pub. ::) We were on holiday following in my ancestors footsteps round Norfolk, Suffolk, Lincolnshire and Yorkshire. My half second cousin once removed (her x g.grandmother was a half sister to my gran) lives in Hull, so we met halfway between her house and where we were staying. Had a lovely lunch and chat and then went on our separate ways. Still in touch though.
Forgot, I also met a 3rd cousin twice removed at my house. He was born in England and was over from US to visit his sister who lived about 30 miles from us. He came to us and we then took him off to visit my mum so she could confirm lots of info he'd already found out independently and fill him in on other info. She was thrilled that someone was interested in her history. Sadly mum has since died, but I'm still in touch with my 3rd cousin.
Lizzie
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I met my fourth cousin removed in a hotel in Vancouver. I had been comunicating with her brother for about 4 years and had planned to meet him on that visit, but he died two weeks before we got there.
Midman
Researching
Kirk(Cottingham)
Setchell(Little Downham)
Seymour(South Bank) Teeside
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I met up with a distant rellie and fellow researcher in the cafe at the Family Records Centre in Angel Islington, before it closed.
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I met up with my second cousin at the local library, but I did suggest the cemetery at the end of her street, which is not far from me.
Busybod
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After gaining an Email addy through a Cornish site where her s-i-l had many years ago tried to contact living relatives on her behalf in the UK.
My cousins lives in South Africa, and we met about six weeks ago when she visited the UK and stayed at my home. ;D
So odd to find that we were both born London way, and for the first six years of our lives lived only about forty miles apart.
Ambers
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I'm home from my cemetery meeting and I have to say it was FANTASTIC. Not only did we all meet and remember our ancestors, but we also met, quite by accident, the researcher who has helped us out in the past, and then another family member who was putting flowers on a grave.
Wow - 2 hour drive home and my head is still spinning.
;D Ted
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That is just great. Lucky you. I am planning to meet up with a second cousin next month near Remembrance Day. We are going to the graveyard where I recently discovered our great great grandmother and both great great great grandparents are buried.
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I must be very boring ;) When we discovered some 2nd cousins visiting from Australia by chance we picked a local garden centre cafe to meet as somewhere easy to find and then have a nice chat.
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I arranged to meet a distant relative of my wife's out the front of our State Library. All very normal you might think, but even though I hadn't met him before, I picked HIM out straight away due to a scarily similar family resemblance to my wife's grandMOTHER.
And that's no aspersions on either of them, just a strong family resemblance.
Darren
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Like ITBookworm I met distant cousins (two brother) in a garden centre cafe, just a convenient place to meet, as it was equidistant from our homes. Far from our family's original Hunts birthplace, we discovered that we were now living about 30 miles apart in the West Country.
This was a first meeting for us all, and I was amazed to discover that one of them had children called Michael, Rosalind and Christopher. My brother's name is Michael and his children are called Rosalind and Christopher! :o
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A distant cousin (4th, I think) found me via the internet. After several years of e-mails and phonecalls, he came down from Brisbane for a visit. THe minute he arrived in the airport terminal, my wife took one look at the 2 of us, and said "You can't tell that you two are Pine's!"
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We met some distant relations on a cruise ship!!
We had made contact with some (i think) 3rd cousins who live about 20 miles away and we met up in a local pub. Then they said some other cousins from New Zealand were coming over to Europe and taking a Mediterranean cruise, and invited us to go along too
So we met the New Zealanders for the first time over dinner as the ship sailed from Rome!
Was a great holiday :)
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I met my third cousin on a holiday in Wales. It wasnt arranged, but the first night of the holiday went down to dinner and sat at a table with two other people, unknown to me, and introduced ourselves and started to chat. Turned out that we were third cousins. Now I could have sat at any table that night and wouldnt have met her. Its weird, almost like we were destined to meet. We now keep in touch on a regular basis and go out to lunch occasionally.
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That's great, Jollery. It's nice to hear positive stories like these. They help to balance out the ones where we find people, often after a long hard search, and we (virtually) bounce towards them, bursting with enthusiasm to talk about the family but find that they're just not interested. :'(
I'd give anything to be able to talk to one newly found relation who is elderly and must be full of information about a long lost section of my family, but she doesn't want to. And I find it so hard to understand, because there is nothing scandalous or awkward about our link, just two marriages, the second after being widowed. I know this happens to other people, too. I feel so sad and disappointed. Maybe it is the very closeness of the relationship that has somehow frightened her - a relationship that she knew nothing about. I don't know. The only thing to do is to appreciate the other people we find, and the friendships we make with them.
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Hello Winterbloom, that is very sad for you, I was wondering if you could go about it through a third party that might be able to talk to her about it, or even a friend of hers that could ask a few questions. Sometimes you have to be a bit devious. In my case, I wasnt even looking for anyone at the time. I thought I had got as far as I wanted after doing it for seven years, but after meeting this cousin it has renewed my interest, and only yesterday I found another 3rd cousin through replying to a post on this site, so don't give up.
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Thanks Jollery. I won't give up completely, no. I do have third party contact with her but I've been told that she won't even discuss it with her, and she wouldn't want to upset her by mentioning it again. But you never know, do you? Maybe she just needs a little bit more time. It's only three months since she discovered that she once had an older brother and sister (now dead) that she never knew existed so it must have been quite a shock. I can only hope that she has a rethink before it really is too late and in the meantime will keep in light touch with the third party and hope for the best. S