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Title: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Lydart on Tuesday 06 July 10 16:47 BST (UK): Our dear friend and fellow RootsChatter Indi died 27th May, 2010.

Many people have expressed their concern for her sudden disappearance, so with RootsChat deb usa and sdbadger we have searched and found out this very sad news.

May she rest in peace and rise in glory with her beloved husband, John.
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Post by: genjen on Tuesday 06 July 10 16:54 BST (UK): So very sad. Indi was so brave when John was ill and immediately following his death.

We will miss her in here.

Jen :'(
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Post by: Niksmum on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:07 BST (UK): Oh how very sad :'( :'( :'(

RIP Indie now you can be with with John for eternity.

we shall miss you

Irene
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Post by: deb usa on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:13 BST (UK): :'(
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Post by: AnneMc on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:21 BST (UK): I am very sad to hear the news. Indie was such a wonderful person and was so brave. I know she was planning a trip back to the UK and I am sorry she did not get there for one last visit.

RIP

Anne
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Post by: Duck on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:23 BST (UK): How terribly sad, I know she didn't quite see eye to eye with me but she was one of the great RootsChat characters, she will be sadly missed on here

Simon
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Post by: geniecolgan on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:31 BST (UK): Bye Indi :'(
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Post by: janetmp on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:36 BST (UK): I have so often wondered why her phone wasnt answered and why she didnt answer my mails...oh dear I am very sad :(

She and John are reunited . I shall always remember you with love indi....xxxxxxxxxxxxx Jan...Rest gently where ever you are.
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Post by: MAINEYUSA on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:38 BST (UK): Blimey,,,I wondered why she hasn't answered my posts. I have lost a good friend and a sweet lady.

Brenda AKA Maineyusa
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Post by: scotmum on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:39 BST (UK): Sad news indeed. We chatted a number of times over the past year in chatterbox and I read her blog about her husband's illness.

She was one fascinating and strong woman, who I am sure was a blessing to many through the incredible way in which she handled her husband's illness and shared what was happening at each stage until his death. This was all the more moving, considering she too had battled illness herself.

May she rest in peace.
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Post by: BettyofKent on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:42 BST (UK): Oh that's so sad, I'm so very sorry.
I enjoyed reading her posts, she will be much missed on RootsChat.

Rest in peace Indie.

Betty
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Post by: oldtimer on Tuesday 06 July 10 17:45 BST (UK): Oh how sad. She was such a brave lady, and so proud to be a Brummie :)

I knew she was planning a trip to England - I thought that that was why she hadn't been around for a while.

Sleep tight Indie, at peace now with your beloved John

Judy x
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Post by: old rowley on Tuesday 06 July 10 18:00 BST (UK): It is with a heavy heart that I type as I am saddened by the news of the passing of Indie. I, like others, first came across Indie in the chatroom and when "chatting" to her it was with the ease that one can only find through friendship. I say friendship because like many I never had the pleasure to meet Indie face to face but only through the ether and the keyboard but I feel like a long time close friend has passed.

Goodnight m'duck and may you find the peace that you so rightly deserve.

OR.
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Post by: MAINEYUSA on Tuesday 06 July 10 18:06 BST (UK): If anyone would like to sign her guestbook,,,the link is as follows:

http://obits.dignitymemorial.com/dignity-memorial/obituary.aspx?n=Irene-Bridenbecker&lc=0406&mid=4293541
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Post by: sdbadger on Tuesday 06 July 10 18:08 BST (UK): I still can't believe it ... why her son and daughter-in-law didn't get in touch with me, I'll never know.

I'll get in touch with her sister-in-law when her office opens in two hours and learn what I can.

I'm so very heartsick ... she was a lovely woman and a very dear friend, but she and John are together again.

I love you and I'll miss you, indi
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Post by: KarenM on Tuesday 06 July 10 18:42 BST (UK): I just don't know what to say, I can't believe it. She will be truly missed.

I loved to talk to her in the chatroom about her beloved B'ham and all the stories she would tell.

RIP Indi

Karen :'(
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Post by: Greensleeves on Tuesday 06 July 10 18:57 BST (UK): So terribly sorry to hear this sad news. RIP Indie and thanks for being such a nice person. I feel honoured to have 'met' you.

Greensleeves
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Post by: nanny jan on Tuesday 06 July 10 19:17 BST (UK): Thanks for letting us know Lydart; I wondered if she was still visiting her family. We had a tentative plan for a mini-meet in Dorset. :'( :'(

I hope she is at peace with her beloved John.

Bye Indie.......

Nanny Jan
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Post by: derekwg on Tuesday 06 July 10 19:21 BST (UK): How sad,she was one very brave and much admired woman who fought so many battles helping her husband with his terrible illness and then her own and so looking forward to visiting her place of birth,tragic.

Indi..from one fellow Brummie to another....rest in eternal peace in the the arms of your beloved husband.

Ta ra. :'(

Derek.
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Post by: Arranroots on Tuesday 06 July 10 19:30 BST (UK): Oh no!

I'd been trying to get in touch for weeks. How sad!

Does anyone know Anjo's details? I'll be in her hometown sometime soon and would love to make contact.

A very sad Arranroots ;)
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Post by: RJ_Paton on Tuesday 06 July 10 19:35 BST (UK): Very sad to hear this ... Indie was always such a special person.

Robert
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Post by: scotmum on Tuesday 06 July 10 19:51 BST (UK): Just thought it might be fitting to post a link to Indi's blog about her late husband, John, for those who may not have had the opportunity to read it before.......may it be a lasting legacy to her strength of character and help others facing a similar situation:

http://indiasadventure.blogspot.com/
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Post by: Pels. on Tuesday 06 July 10 20:02 BST (UK): How dreadfully sad to suddenly think of someone who was always so full of life, in the past tense. I know a lot of the friends Indi was close to were worried, but at the back of your mind you hoped she was in England.

It's hard to believe, I am so very sorry.
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Post by: genjen on Tuesday 06 July 10 20:10 BST (UK): Quote from: Pels. on Tuesday 06 July 10 20:02 BST (UK)

I know a lot of the friends Indi was close to were worried, but at the back of your mind you hoped she was in England.

I kept saying to Lydart that she was probably still in the UK or something equally 'safe'. Like many others, I didn't want to think the worst, even though the last blog entry was way back in April and it seemed so unlikely that she would have stopped writing it.
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Post by: MaryA on Tuesday 06 July 10 20:44 BST (UK): Oh that was a shock, thanks for letting us know Lydart.

A well liked Rootschatter, our paths crossed from time to time, good night friend.

Mary
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Post by: miildredmartha on Tuesday 06 July 10 20:59 BST (UK): I never had the pleasure but im sure your all right about Indie... #God bless indie xx
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Post by: judi2632 on Tuesday 06 July 10 21:00 BST (UK): So shocked to hear such sad news.

Indi RIP with your beloved John

Judi
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Post by: mare on Tuesday 06 July 10 21:01 BST (UK): So very shocked at the news, being another who kept in touch with Pam and concerned for her well being :'( :'(
dear, brave, amazing lady she was :-* :'( mare
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Post by: Jed59 on Tuesday 06 July 10 21:02 BST (UK): I am so very sorry.... Rest in peace Indie
Jed
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Post by: jc26red on Tuesday 06 July 10 21:03 BST (UK): Oh dear, how sad :'(

After all you have been through over the last few years Pam, what a brave lady.

God bless, now you are with John again.

love Jenny
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Post by: loopylu on Tuesday 06 July 10 21:04 BST (UK): SORRY TO HEAR SUCH SAD NEWS.....ONLY SPOKE WITH INDI A FEW TIMES IN THE CHAT.

BUT SHE MADE PEOPLE FEEL WELCOME.

SLEEP WELL INDI, YOUR STRUGGLES ARE AT EN END.

rip.

LOOPYLU
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Post by: Ann Baker on Tuesday 06 July 10 21:51 BST (UK): Oh this is so sad!

Pam (Indi) was a very special lady indeed!

I'd been wondering why her phone was ringing out and emails not answered cos wasn't like her so I'd assumed she was visitng her sister over here.

Will miss you hunny more than I can say but now you are with John and I know you'll be OK

Ann :'(
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Post by: ankerdine on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:00 BST (UK): I too have been looking for Indi's messages on here and wondered if she was in Brum.

I had the pleasure of talking to her on the phone a couple of times last September when I was in California.

I have shed a few tears for her tonight. What a great pity. I loved the photos she took.

We shall miss her. What a great shame.

I regularly pass by the house where she lived in Brum. I wish I had known her before.

Thanks for your notice Lydart.

Judy
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Post by: jericho on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:09 BST (UK): So sad to hear about Indi, she will be missed. Reunited with her soul mate John forever. Rest in Peace. :'(

jericho
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Post by: Paul on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:18 BST (UK): Such Sad News :( God Bless Pam.

Paul.
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Post by: patrish on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:21 BST (UK): How terribly sad :'(

I didn't know Pam all that well but we had exchanged views several times.

You could tell by reading her blog just how devastated she was at the loss of her dear husband

Rest in peace now with your beloved John.
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Post by: deb usa on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:22 BST (UK): Quote from: jericho on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:09 BST (UK)
Reunited with her soul mate John forever. Rest in Peace. :'(

.... and with her daughter, who she lost many years ago.

I have been thinking of Indi all day today ...no matter how menial the job/housework, she has been in my thoughts!

deb :'(
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Post by: Lydart on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:36 BST (UK): Mine too, mine too ... :'(

Thank you Deb, and sdbadger for your help in finding out what has happened to Indi; its been bugging me for weeks, as I hadn't heard. Isn't the internet wonderful for this sort of hunt ... I just wished I'd done it earlier. Many RC people have been asking me whats happened to her, as they knew she had been talking to me a lot during Johns illness and after he had died. I hope I was able to help her a little.

I'll miss John's gorgeous voice on her phone ! Like Howard Keel ...
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Post by: Just Kia on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:41 BST (UK): :'(
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Post by: PaulaToo on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:47 BST (UK): Night night Indi, sweet dreams.
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Post by: groom on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:50 BST (UK): I'm very sorry to hear this news. I followed Indi's blogs and posts with admiration at the way she coped with all the blows life dealt her.

Rest in peace Indi.

Jan
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Post by: Iria on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:51 BST (UK): Goodnight and Rest In Peace Indi...Reunited with Your Beloved John x

Love Iria and Family
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Post by: Cal241 on Tuesday 06 July 10 22:52 BST (UK): Blimey I am truly, genuinely stunned at this news .. what a lady ..... a gorgeous kind spirited lady too who will be sadly missed. :'(
goodnight god bless Indi x

Thank you so much Lydart for letting us know x
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Post by: forthefamily on Tuesday 06 July 10 23:02 BST (UK): I am in shock. I thought she wasn't around because she was in England visiting family.

A brave lady who will be missed a great deal.
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Post by: deb usa on Tuesday 06 July 10 23:02 BST (UK): Lydart

I just wish sdbadger and I could have found her drinking a cold beer in some quaint pub in the UK somewhere.

deb
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Post by: Lydart on Tuesday 06 July 10 23:04 BST (UK): :)

Oh so do I ! With her English friends gathered around her !
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Post by: g a r on Tuesday 06 July 10 23:07 BST (UK): good night indi
you've taken your light to another room
those there are the better for it
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Post by: netgrrl79 on Tuesday 06 July 10 23:31 BST (UK): Goodnight Indi... only spoke to her a couple of times in the chatroom but read a lot of her blog around her husband's ilness - such a brave lady.
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Post by: craizi daizi on Tuesday 06 July 10 23:40 BST (UK): RIP Indie

You were so brave, so strong,

Daizi
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Post by: Lexi on Tuesday 06 July 10 23:48 BST (UK): :'( :'( :'( :'( Goodbye my brummie friend

RIP
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Post by: chinakay on Wednesday 07 July 10 00:08 BST (UK): Oh Indi, Indi..... :'(
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Post by: Rena on Wednesday 07 July 10 00:15 BST (UK): What a shock to learn this news. RIP Indi, you're now together in paradise.
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Post by: Yorvick on Wednesday 07 July 10 00:30 BST (UK): I am so sorry to hear about Indi - she was a wonderful woman, an example to us all in her devotion to John, and maintaining her humour, courtesy and kindness to others throughout what must have been a a very very tiring, worrying and emotional time.

RIP Indi with your beautiful John

Di
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Post by: kiwihalfpint on Wednesday 07 July 10 00:44 BST (UK): I am sorry to hear about the news of Indi ..... wondered why I hadn't seen her ..... very pleasant lady to exchange news with.

RIP :'(
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Post by: PrueM on Wednesday 07 July 10 00:45 BST (UK): I was genuinely shocked to hear this news...such a lovely, beautiful, kind, thoughtful lady with a wicked sense of humour.

Rest in peace, my gummy brummy chummy :)

xxx
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Post by: Deb D on Wednesday 07 July 10 01:23 BST (UK): :'(
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Post by: karenlee on Wednesday 07 July 10 03:38 BST (UK): Blimey.. no wonder my messages to her went unanswered. Like so many others I thought Pammy had gone on her trip to the UK.... I am stunned.

Bye Pammy me loverly..... you will be missed.... I hope that you are free of pain and sadness at last.

Love

Karen
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Post by: muppetprincess on Wednesday 07 July 10 05:04 BST (UK): Bye Indi, so sad to hear you've gone, but also happy to know you're with John, now.
Thank you for your bravery over the last 2 years of John's life, telling it all to us in the blog. Thank you for helping us to remember that our little problems were just that, small.
You will be missed by all, bless you and John as you journey on together.
Jude
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Post by: Lydart on Wednesday 07 July 10 09:18 BST (UK): I'm sure her family won't mind her dozens (hundreds ?) of international friends being told that her cancer had returned ... and she also broke her hip, possibly in that fall she recorded on her last blog entry ...

... such a brave lady ...

... and now her ashes are buried with Johns.

Truly together ... as she wanted ...

:'(
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Post by: GailS on Wednesday 07 July 10 09:26 BST (UK): RIP Indi,

May you enjoy your eternity with your beloved husband.

I did'nt know you well, but thank you for making me laugh and smile.

Your strength is an inspiration......
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Post by: genjen on Wednesday 07 July 10 09:33 BST (UK): Thank you, Lydart, for your part in finding and telling this sad news. I know that yesterday was a difficult one for you, deb and sdbadger but without all of your efforts, I wonder how long the rest of us would have just carried on wondering where Indi had gone.

Jen
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Post by: jc26red on Wednesday 07 July 10 09:53 BST (UK): Thank you Lydart for sharing, there were so many of us with Indi over the years listening and hopefully helping her through the bad times and keeping everything crossed that it didn't return. Poor Pam, at least now the pain has gone she had been through so much.

Jenny
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Post by: Emmeline on Wednesday 07 July 10 09:56 BST (UK): I just spotted Indi's name amongst the topics and felt so sad to hear that she is no longer with us - except in spirit.

Goodbye Indi and thank you for all the pleasure I received from your company on Rootschat.

Adieu.
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Post by: Blondie1 on Wednesday 07 July 10 10:34 BST (UK): She was a really nice lady who will I am sure be very much missed. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone who knew her.

Val
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Post by: prophetess on Wednesday 07 July 10 10:57 BST (UK): :'( So very sad to hear the news,

Indi was a very special lady, with a heart of gold,
United once more with your soulmate, Good Night Indi
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Post by: Tephra on Wednesday 07 July 10 10:58 BST (UK): RIP Indie.
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Post by: LoneyBones on Wednesday 07 July 10 11:01 BST (UK): How sad, maybe now she's found all her ancestors.
Bye Indie.
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Post by: jensquest on Wednesday 07 July 10 14:41 BST (UK): Such sad news about a very brave and inspirational lady, who will be missed by many rootschatters.
I followed her blog through John's illness and passing, and wondered many times how she managed to carry on and be so strong, still managing to post on here and be as funny as ever with all the sadness she endured.

Goodbye Indi x
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Post by: kesannah on Wednesday 07 July 10 14:59 BST (UK): R.I.P Indie.
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Post by: Hackstaple on Wednesday 07 July 10 15:01 BST (UK): Desperately sorry to hear of India's passing.
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Post by: sdbadger on Wednesday 07 July 10 16:10 BST (UK): I'm just so very, very, very sorry I didn't do more. I can't believe I didn't know she was again ill, but so like her to not trouble others.

I still haven't heard from her sister or sister-in-law, but Mainey heard from her sister yesterday that Pam had been ailing.

The last time we spoke, we were still planning to get together again at one of the casinos....

I will miss her forever and still cannot believe I won't see her again.

But she is out of all the pain and misery and back with John. I shall look for them on their beloved beaches.

And I'll await signs from her that she's working on all our brick walls!

Much love, Pam, always.

Susan
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Post by: youngtug on Wednesday 07 July 10 17:15 BST (UK): R.I.P. Indie.
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Post by: Ecneps on Wednesday 07 July 10 19:25 BST (UK): So sorry to hear the sad news, a very brave lady

Bye Indi
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Post by: AnneMc on Wednesday 07 July 10 19:33 BST (UK): could someone please post the web link to Indie's other blog, I would love to read it. Have the one for the blog re her beloved John .

Thank you very much

Anne
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Post by: Arranroots on Wednesday 07 July 10 19:37 BST (UK): Hi Anne

Here it is: http://lovingyousixpence.blogspot.com/
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Post by: Maggie. on Wednesday 07 July 10 21:00 BST (UK): Oh what very sad news. Our paths did not often cross on RC, but when I read Indie's blog on John's illness I realised that she was one brave and truly inspirational person. She is going to be missed by her many friends on here.

I'm sorry I didn't know you better Indie......RIP

Maggie
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Post by: tazzie on Wednesday 07 July 10 21:11 BST (UK): Indi
Rest in Peace and with your loved ones you will be missed by many.
Goodnight God Bless

Tazzie
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Post by: rancegal on Wednesday 07 July 10 22:04 BST (UK): A most lovely lady. May light perpetual shine upon you.
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Post by: AnneMc on Wednesday 07 July 10 22:06 BST (UK): Arranroots

Thank you for posting the web link. Much appreciated.

Cheers
anne
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Post by: Springbok on Wednesday 07 July 10 22:24 BST (UK): Oh so sad to hear that dear Indie has left us.

Such a brave lady, she will be so missed by all those us who have been privileged to follow her life over the years.

She had so much love, forgiveness and humour to offer .

Be happy and in peace now Indie together with those who you love.

Spring
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Post by: lil growler on Thursday 08 July 10 03:32 BST (UK): With such saddnes I write........I'm lost for words at Indi's passing. What a brave lady she has been.... In this time of tragedy brings a time of reunion with her man..both be a peace.

Badg and Deb, what wonderful friends you are.......

Love lil
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Post by: Wee Bairn on Thursday 08 July 10 05:34 BST (UK): She was brave and strong, no holds barred, tell it like it is. Well read and widely travelled with a love of literature and photography. A blogger ? Well why not? I don't think there was much that Indi couldn't do when she set her mind on it. She was a Wife , sister, mother and a grandmother. For those of us in roots it was her genealogical advice and silly chatter in the chatterbox that will come to mind. For me it was all the many times she helped me and my family over the years.
There is a poem which I think sums up what our Indi would have wanted at this time.

Remember Me
Remember me with smiles and laughter
for that is how I will remember you all.
If you can only remember me with tears,
then don't remember me at all

I think I will remember Indi best as she would say good night to us all in the chatroom.
"I'm off to water the dessert and toss some roadkill on the barbie while Mme and Mr. Indi enjoy a cold on before the sun goes down. "
Oh how she could make us laugh

Good bye my friend. Rest in peace with you soulmate once again.
Heather xoxo
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Post by: Lydart on Thursday 08 July 10 08:09 BST (UK): Quote
Remember Me
Remember me with smiles and laughter
for that is how I will remember you all.
If you can only remember me with tears,
then don't remember me at all

That's lovely. It was Indi's sense of fun, even when she herself was battling cancer that made her such a special person.

There's also:-

"Laugh, and the world laughs with you;
Cry ... and you cry alone."

The Rootschat world was able to laugh with her; we mustn't cry ...
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Post by: Matt R on Thursday 08 July 10 11:50 BST (UK): I'm not quite sure what to say...I was away yesterday and have come back to this awful and lachrymose news about Indi :(

I'll always remember how frequently people would ask how she was whenever she appeared in the chatroom, which became less frequent of late and her presence was always missed, for obvious reasons. She was such a strong lady and so heartbroken after John passed. She is truly what a role model should be. Such an inspiration and so kind to others.

R.I.P Indi. Goodnight and God Bless.
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Post by: Polldoll on Thursday 08 July 10 17:17 BST (UK): The saddest of news ... a really larger than life character who was inspiring, witty and kind ...her presence will be missed ... :'(
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Post by: marcie dean on Thursday 08 July 10 18:15 BST (UK): I cannot believe it. Cant stop crying. She reached me so easily. Have nothing more to say. She really did make you scream with laughter.

marcie
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Post by: seahall on Thursday 08 July 10 19:09 BST (UK): So very, very sad. :'(

Thank you her friends here for letting us know Indi is now with John.

Heaven must be a truly beautiful place filled with our loved ones.

Indi you will be sorely missed.

Sandy
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Post by: littleclaire on Thursday 08 July 10 21:11 BST (UK): Thinking of and praying for her family and friends

Rest in peace Indi xxxxx
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Post by: J.J. on Friday 09 July 10 03:51 BST (UK): Awe, KarenM just told me the sad news that our Indi has joined her Mr. Indi...

I know we'll be getting an extra tap on the shoulder when we search for the Home Children...The search for them was always close to her heart. We'll miss you INDI! Say hello for us to the other rootschatters up there.
J.J.
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Post by: win2dex on Friday 09 July 10 04:54 BST (UK): I am so very sorry to hear of the Indi's passing. I met her on RootsChat in September of 2009. We were second cousins once removed. We exchanged many emails and enjoyed a few chats over the phone. She was trying to locate "Alldridge" cousins. She sent me information on my BHC Grandmother Ruth Rebecca Alldridge and her siblings.

I knew she was trying to go back to England for a visit with her sister and I thought she had finally got her passport in order to make the trip. I called many times in June but only got her voice mail. I then tried to locate her son and daughter an to my total shock, discovered her obituary. I have been trying to get a hold of her son or daughter with no success.

If anyone can help me I would very much appreciate it.

Rest peacfully Pam, Thanks for everything.
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: cazza59 on Friday 09 July 10 08:49 BST (UK): What a sad loss to Rootschat and to us all. Like Wee Bairn ( :-* ) above, I remember the days in the chatroom when I first started on Rootschat some six or so years ago, and the laughs we used to have together. Not only that, Indi and I shared Roots from a little village in Hereford called Leintwardine and I remember how happy she was at seeing the photos I took when I was lucky enough to visit the village, so I'm so glad to have been able to share them with her, I'm just so sad she didn't get a chance to get there herself. Indi was a wonderful character, straight shooter with a wicked sense of humour. You will be greatly missed, God Bless and RIP. :-* :-*

Caz
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Ninatoo on Friday 09 July 10 16:42 BST (UK): I was there with you Cazza and Wee Bairn, in the chatroom, chatting away and having a few laughs....I remember Indi fondly; how much fun she was, and how helpful she tried to be to others here....such a great lady, much missed by fellow Rootschatters, as we can see by the length of this thread.

:'(
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: blodwen on Friday 09 July 10 18:06 BST (UK): I have also been offline for a few days and have just read Indi's name.

How very sad to hear of her passing away.

RIP

Viv
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: meles on Friday 09 July 10 18:17 BST (UK): I, too, missed this before. Very, very sad. I shall miss her wit. My thoughts are with her family.

meles
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: sdbadger on Friday 09 July 10 18:24 BST (UK): Just to let everyone know ... we have learned that indi passed away at her home with hospice care and her son and daughter-in-law with her. I'm so very grateful she was not alone.

Rest in peace, dear friend.
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: stoney on Friday 09 July 10 18:34 BST (UK): I hadn't noticed this sad news until now. :(

I enjoyed Indie's comments - used to make me smile.

My condolences to all who knew her well. I trust she is resting in peace now, reunited with her beloved John.

...and let us continue to remember her witty remarks and smile as we acknowledge our lives were the richer for her presence - real or digital.

RIP Indiapaleale
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: GRACELAND on Friday 09 July 10 18:50 BST (UK): RIP

Indie

You were always ready to help out

Thanks

God Knew your were tired so he called you to rest

But we will all miss you Here

G
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Lydart on Friday 09 July 10 19:00 BST (UK): Quote from: sdbadger on Friday 09 July 10 18:24 BST (UK)
Just to let everyone know ... we have learned that indi passed away at her home with hospice care and her son and daughter-in-law with her. I'm so very grateful she was not alone.

Rest in peace, dear friend.

Oh thank you very much for that information SDB ... I was so worried that she had been alone ...

Email me if you have anything else ...

XX
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Selina on Friday 09 July 10 23:13 BST (UK): I was so shocked to find this news tonight.

I met Indi in the chat room, she made me laugh so often!

Together again with her beloved husband.

Selina
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: LizzieW on Saturday 10 July 10 01:26 BST (UK): So sorry to hear this sad news, but at least Indie is now free of pain and reunited with her much loved and missed John.

Lizzie
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: deeiluka on Saturday 10 July 10 02:32 BST (UK): I too thought Indie must have been on her trip back to England.......

R.I.P. Indie.......you'll be sadly missed by so many...........

Dee
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Ruskie on Saturday 10 July 10 02:33 BST (UK): I'm sorry to hear this very sad news ....
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Post by: AnneMc on Saturday 10 July 10 02:43 BST (UK): Badger:

I am so glad to hear that Indi was not on her own at the end... Glad she had family with her.

Anne
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: prophetess on Saturday 10 July 10 14:50 BST (UK): Thanks Badger,
for letting us know that her son and Daughter in Law were with her,
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Caz1960 on Saturday 10 July 10 22:57 BST (UK): Just found this as well,

Didn't know Indie all that well, only saw her briefly in the chatroom.

R.I.P. Indie, sleep well and say Hi to my mum if you happen to bump into her

Caz xx
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: justmej on Saturday 10 July 10 23:26 BST (UK): I'm so sorry to hear this very sad news... it never failed to amaze me how she could still make one laugh, even when things were not so good for her... truly a lovely lady, who will always raise a smile whenever she is thought of.

R.I.P. Indi now that you are with both your beloved husband and daughter.

justmej xx
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Abiam2 on Saturday 10 July 10 23:59 BST (UK): I have also been off line for a week and have only just come across this thread. I remembered that she inspired me at my most unhappy time at the beginning of the year and have just looked back to read it again. The Nun's advice is so true and I found her last sentence very moving.

Dear Abiam,
MY thouhts are with you. As many of the Rootschatters know, I lost my lovely husband of 27 years last June. His sister is a Nun and she gave me some great advice:

Don't try and get past it - you can't. Don't try and get over it - you can't. Make the death of your beloved part of the wonderful life you shared.

I, too am abroad and would love to go home - time will tell.

I have joined a grief chat room for widows and widowers - and have met some lovely people and have even been able to laugh on occasion. Send me a PM if you want the addy.

Good luck with your move, my dear, I will hold you in my heart.

Indi

I read a lot of her posts over the last 2 or 3 years and found her to have great humour, in adversity, and sincere feelings. It is so sad that she didn't make her trip home.
Indi, you will be sorely missed by many.
Abiam2
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: sdbadger on Sunday 11 July 10 00:30 BST (UK): I just got off the phone with indi's sister-in-law, the nun to whom Abiam refers.

She said that indi checked herself out of the care facility she was in to recover from the hip surgery and went home. They last spoke on 20 May, I believe she said.

indi didn't want any service so there was none, but she and John were interred together in mid-June.

Her sister-in-law will keep me apprised.

We can all take some comfort in she did not know she was so ill until the end and went very quickly and is now at peace.
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Springbok on Sunday 11 July 10 01:12 BST (UK): Thankyou so much Badger for keeping us up to date , and allaying our anxieties for dear Indi's last days.Mid June when we thinking that she was coming to the UK. So Sad.

Abiam ,I too have been re-reading Indi's.posts from the first, she must have been such a comfort for you.

Spring
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Jean McGurn on Sunday 11 July 10 05:45 BST (UK): R.I.P Indi - You will be missed by so many.

Jean
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Emjaybee on Sunday 11 July 10 12:01 BST (UK): There is not much that has not been said.

May those left to grieve find comfort.

Mike
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: jethorp on Sunday 11 July 10 18:31 BST (UK): Just come on line for the first time in ages, I am so sorry to hear Indi is no longer with us. I often read her replies to others and I knew I was guaranteed a smile.
Rest in Peace Indi XX Jo
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: CatOne on Sunday 11 July 10 20:37 BST (UK): R.I.P Indie, I've enjoyed reading your posts over the years I've been on rootschat :'(
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: anjobanjo on Sunday 11 July 10 21:40 BST (UK): Dear Everyone,

I cannot tell you how moved I am to read all your very kind tributes to my dear sister Indi. She was a wonderful person and I loved her dearly and there is a great hole in my heart since she departed to be with her beloved John. We talked almost daily and she told me about all the people she was in contact with at Rootschat.. She really enjoyed helping people find their ancestors. She was so funny at times, you would split your sides laughing. She was also very brave, kind and generous, a real brick.

Thank you all so much......your messages mean a lot to me. Best Wishes Anjobanjo
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Arranroots on Sunday 11 July 10 21:42 BST (UK): Hi Anjo

Welcome - sorry it's under sad circumstances.

Indi was so looking forward to her trip "home" and we had planned a beer in your garden (not sure if she'd told you about that, lol!) She was obviously very fond of you too.

She was a unique lady: much missed.

Kind regards, Arranroots ;)
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Lydart on Sunday 11 July 10 21:49 BST (UK): Hello Anjo,

I'm SO pleased you managed to find your way onto RootsChat so you could read the tributes to your wonderful, funny, brave, loving, amazing sister. (Thanks AR for advice on how to enable Anjo to read the tributes).

We must meet up one day to have a beer in Pam's memory ... even though (to her great horror !) I don't drink.

XX Lyn from Monmouth
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: win2dex on Sunday 11 July 10 22:32 BST (UK): I would like to pass on my condolences to Anjo. We have never met (we are second cousins once removed just as I was with Indi). I met Indi through RootsChat and we became instant friends.

I would also like to thank sdbadger for her help in finding the circumstances of Indi's passing. I would appreciate it if someone could pass on my email address to anjobanjo or to Indi's sister-in-law.

I miss you Indi. XOXOX
Dave
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: sdbadger on Sunday 11 July 10 23:38 BST (UK): Anjo, you take care of yourself. You meant the world to indi and I'm so glad you had your last visit with her.

I'm just so very sorry she never made it back to her beloved England and had the chance to meet you, Dave, and all the folks she was planning to visit with.

There's a big hole in my heart but it will heal in time, knowing she and John are together again. I'm so very glad to have known them both.

sdb
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: janetmp on Monday 12 July 10 00:41 BST (UK): Dear Anjo, I will write to you by email later...it is great to read your message on here.....Jan and Tony
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Gaille on Monday 12 July 10 01:04 BST (UK): ohhh wow what a shock!

I have been offline a couple of weeks and the 1st thing I saw when I came in here was this thread!

I thought like so many others that Indi was just offline as she was in England, we had a long chat about flights and routes to England (lol and the pros & Con of flying British Airways) a couple of Months ago, and I knew she was realy determined to be in England over the summer, so I just presumed that as she wasnt online she was over here & I had just missed her telling people she was off on her travels.

RIP Indi, you made such a wonderful addition to our family in here and you will be sadly missed.

Hopefully she will be sat on that bar stool beside all her missing ancestors finding out all about them now ...................... no more brickwalls, only answers :)
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: casalguidi on Monday 12 July 10 08:26 BST (UK): I, too, haven't been around much for a little while and have only just read this such sad news.

Casalguidi :'(
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Ewan on Monday 12 July 10 10:47 BST (UK): Oh what sad sad news, I had chatted to Pam many times and a long time ago on Rootschat, Pam helped me to try and find my elusive William Henry Cox from Birmingham. I often went into her blog - Where are you Sixpence? I did wonder why she had not been on Rootschat for a while and if she was okay. I went into Indi's profile and saw the sad news this morning, I still can't believe it.

May you rest in peace now Indi, you are with John and your daughter now, God bless you what a great lady. :)

Ewan
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: rleach on Thursday 15 July 10 04:50 BST (UK): Blimey i didn't know oh how i miss our old days on chat her great storied the debates, and the question we all asked whats for dinner, i am in shock and the tears are running down my face she was definitly one of a kind and one of the best

rose
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Llwyd on Thursday 15 July 10 21:39 BST (UK): Sad news .........
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Lloydy on Saturday 17 July 10 22:16 BST (UK): I haven't been on Rootschat for quite a long time, and decided to come back today. I have just discovered this extremely sad thread and am in total shock :'(

Over the years I had lots of good chats with Indi in the chatroom and via personal messages - she was such a lovely lady.

RIP Indie xxxx
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: margaret1 on Saturday 17 July 10 23:54 BST (UK): Oh, this is just so sad :'(

Bye Bye Indi.

Margaret x
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Pyewacket on Thursday 22 July 10 13:32 BST (UK): I was following her blog - such sad news, the death of a gutsy lady.
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Lexi on Tuesday 27 July 10 23:52 BST (UK): Quote
Blimey i didn't know oh how i miss our old days on chat her great storied the debates, and the question we all asked whats for dinner, i am in shock and the tears are running down my face she was definitly one of a kind and one of the best

rose

Rose, she will be truly missed! Between the two of you, you were able to come up with some amazing results. Hope all is well in your world.

xoxo
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: crystal lady on Wednesday 28 July 10 22:57 BST (UK): I too have not been around for a while, just finding my way back and learnt the sad news - god bless you Indi.

Crystal xx
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: kitch59 on Sunday 01 August 10 12:20 BST (UK): Goodnight sis
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: BuddysMummy on Sunday 01 August 10 13:33 BST (UK): I just knew Pam from posts on here, her blog and a couple of brief messages.

Her last blog entries make such sad reading. I am happy that she is with her beloved John again. She missed him so much.

So sad that we won't see her on here any more though.

RIP Indi.
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Su on Saturday 07 August 10 17:56 BST (UK): I haven't been on RC for ages, but thought I would take a look around today and realised I had left myself logged in. I found a PM from Margaret1 (thank you Margaret) with this link. I had been told of Indi's passing by Matty some time ago and was very saddened.

Indi was a real inspiration. She was a fighter and wasn't going to let her illness get the better of her if she could help it. All the treatment she endured, the awful throats, which she tried to calm with icecream and cold beers, made me ashamed of moaning about aches and pains.

Her comments always made me smile or laugh, and I loved her photographs on These Sunny Days etc

She will be missed by so many for different reasons, but she will never be forgotten by those of us who admired her courage, enjoyed her sense of humour and were enveloped in her warmth and love.

Indi, may you and John be eternally at peace.

Su
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Caz1960 on Saturday 07 August 10 22:15 BST (UK): I had this poem read at my mums funeral a few months ago, and would like to post it here, in memory of Indi and for all her friends.

Gods Garden

God looked around his garden
And found an empty place,
He then looked down upon the earth
And saw your tired face.
He put his arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God's garden must be beautiful
He always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering
He knew you were in pain.
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.
He saw the road was getting rough
And the hills were hard to climb.
So he closed your weary eyelids
And whispered, 'Peace be Thine'.
It broke our hearts to lose you
But you didn't go alone,
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: deb usa on Sunday 08 August 10 04:28 BST (UK): Caz1960

That's lovely :)

Su ...I think your words are what everyone who knew her would want to say...thanks

Indi ...cheers babe, love ya xx
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: sdbadger on Tuesday 10 August 10 23:56 BST (UK): Thanks very much for posting the poem, Caz. So perfect!
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: sdbadger on Monday 20 December 10 04:31 GMT (UK): And yet another "old" Rootschatter and chat room person popped up today ... having only recently heard the news about Pam. He was a fave of hers and always wanted to be remembered to him. I'm glad we had the chance to chat.

God bless all those she touched and who touched her. She was a force of nature and will be missed forever.

Merry Christmas, Pam and John ... you are together again ... and know we love you and will never forget you.
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: AnneMc on Monday 20 December 10 18:40 GMT (UK): Badger:

I am sure Pam and John are sitting together have a beer and toasting everyone for Chrismas.

Gone but not forgotten

Annemc
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: Lydart on Monday 20 December 10 20:05 GMT (UK): I'm still missing picking up the phone and hearing that rather rough gravelly voice (from all the treatment she had had on her throat) ... :'(

We'll raise a glass to you and John, my friend.

Cheers ! :D
Title: Re: Indiapaleale, R.I.P
Post by: marcie dean on Tuesday 21 December 10 21:43 GMT (UK): nothing to be said which will ease the sadness I can see emanating from this posting. Missing you Indi. Just getting to know you, then you were gone.
:-\ :-* :-*
merry xmas indi,

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