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Title: Tom Stafford marriage???
Post by: Catkins on Sunday 29 April 07 22:33 BST (UK)
Can anyone help?  My great-great-grandfather was Tom Stafford who was born in Godstone, Surrey 1848 and he married Emily White (born 1854, Surrey).  Their first child, George Tom, was born 1877 but I can find no marriage record for them.  If anyone can pinpoint anything for me or has this information already I'd be eternally grateful.

Thanks.

Chloe 
Title: Re: Tom Stafford marriage???
Post by: Jane Masri on Monday 30 April 07 06:51 BST (UK)
Hi Chloe,
Where have you looked for the marriage?  The full GRO index is free to search at Ancestry UK (look at the FULL index)

jane
Title: Re: Tom Stafford marriage???
Post by: Catkins on Monday 30 April 07 07:43 BST (UK)
Thank you Jane but yes, I've searched that as thoroughly as is possible!  Also FreeBMD.  You name it, I seem to have tried it!

Chloe
Title: Re: Tom Stafford marriage???
Post by: Jane Masri on Monday 30 April 07 14:56 BST (UK)
Hi Chloe,
have you spotted them on the 1881 & subsequent census?  If so where in Surrey are they to be found?  Where was the son, George born?  There's always a chance they didn't marry or the marriage entry just didn't make it to the main office.  I suppose you've looked under the name THOMAS & tried a search in the name of Emily White then cross referencing it with Tom Stafford?

jane
Title: Re: Tom Stafford marriage???
Post by: Catkins on Monday 30 April 07 16:53 BST (UK)
Thank you Jane.  Yes, I've tried looking for Emily White but nothing to match her to a Tom or Thomas - every possible combination you can imagine and I've tried it!!!  Their first child was actually born in Ifield, Sussex near Crawley but still nothing for a match.  As you say, they may not have been married but at the moment I'm working on the basis they were - at some point! 

Chloe
Title: Re: Tom Stafford marriage???
Post by: Jane Masri on Monday 30 April 07 17:56 BST (UK)
Yes, I found them on the 1881 census & noted that their son was born in Crawley so went looking for a Sussex marriage.  I thought I'd found something when I found an Emily White married in Horsham Reg. district but couldn't match it up with a Tom Stafford  :(
I'm sure something will turn-up sooner or later  :)

jane
Title: Re: Tom Stafford marriage???
Post by: Catkins on Monday 30 April 07 18:10 BST (UK)
This is just the same problem I've found.  Thanks for looking anyway.

Chloe
Title: Re: Tom Stafford marriage???
Post by: lizdb on Monday 30 April 07 22:00 BST (UK)
do you know for sure that Emliy was married as Emily White? Or was that her maiden name. Could she have been married before?

There is a marriage for a Tom Stafford in Oc/Nov/Dec quarter 1875, Croydon area. Also on page an Emily Lucy Bull.
Has 'your' Emliy ever given a middle name?

Another idea I had (sorry they are all a bit clutching at straws ish) was - have you found Tom and/or Emily on 1871 census to see if they were married then, v young?
Also may confirm names they used then.
Title: Re: Tom Stafford marriage???
Post by: Catkins on Monday 30 April 07 22:54 BST (UK)
Well Jane, I've found all the same entries as you but I will check the 1871 for Tom - because I can't find Emily for CERTAIN I don't know which census entries for '71 would be correct!  Tom I know appears on the '71 himself but I will check the age, etc and to see if still single, etc etc - though I THINK he was.

Thanks for suggestions.

Chloe